Showing posts with label Celebrities. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Celebrities. Show all posts

Friday, February 7, 2014

The Way we see Addiction (Warning: rant ahead)


I recently came across an article that I felt I needed to share on Facebook. 
It was a piece on the late Philip Seymour Hoffman, written by Russell Brand and published in The Guardian.

Mr. Brand argues that Mr. Hoffman was a victim of 'extremely stupid' drug laws. 
He says,

"Addiction is a mental illness around which there is a great deal of confusion, which is hugely exacerbated by the laws that criminalise drug addicts."

He points out that by making drugs illegal we make drug users criminals. That no self-respecting drug user is going to be deterred by prohibition. That our culture does not know how to treat drug addicts.

You can read the article for yourself here.

I shared this (in my opinion) wonderful article as I felt it provided an important look at addiction from the non-judgemental side. 

A FB friend of mine added a comment that made me quite angry.

"He is dead cause he is a Junkie looking for the ultimate high! ...if he wasn't famous, there would be no story; just another Junkie"

Since everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I posted a respectful response but I felt I still needed to vent a little.

The joys of having a blog. 
Feel free to stop reading here if you prefer the lighter fare. 
I just need to get this off of my chest.

Let's start with some definitions.
(*They aren't properly referenced, don't tell any of my former professors)

1. Addiction (from CAMH) :

" The word “addiction” is often used to refer to any behaviour that is out of control in some way. People often describe themselves as being addicted to, for example, a TV show or shopping. The word is also used to explain the experience of withdrawal when a substance or behaviour is stopped (e.g., “I must be addicted to coffee: I get a headache when I don’t have my cup in the morning”).
However, experiencing enjoyment or going through withdrawal do not in themselves mean a person has an addiction.
Because the term “addiction” is commonly used in such a vague way, there have been many attempts to define it more clearly. One simple way of describing addiction is the presence of the 4 Cs:
    • craving
    • loss of control of amount or frequency of use 
    • compulsion to use
    • use despite consequences. "


    2. Deserving (from dictionary.com) 

    adjective

    1.
    qualified for or having a claim to reward, assistance, etc., because of one's actions, 
    qualities, or situation: the deserving poor; a deserving applicant.
    2.
    meriting; worthy: a criminal deserving of a lifetime sentence.

    3. Undeserving (from dictionary.com) :
    — adjective
    not earned or merited; unwarranted: an undeserved reputation

    Have you ever heard the phrase 'deserving' vs 'undeserving' used with respect to health care?
    In case you haven't, let me give you an example.

    I work with people living with HIV/AIDS.
    When the disease first made its appearance, there were two broad categories someone with HIV/AIDS could fall into based on how you acquired the virus.
    If you were a haemophiliac and became infected due to a HIV+ blood transfusion, or you were born to an HIV+ mother, guess what? You won the sympathy game. You were deserving of treatment and people's support.
    If you were an injection drug user or a gay man, guess what? You asked for it. You brought it on yourself. You were undeserving of the sympathy, you should have been smarter.

    Unfortunately this mentality still exists.

    You're addicted to alcohol/cocaine/heroin/methamphetamines/prescription pills/etc?
    Just stop using them.
    Check yourself into rehab.
    Get clean for your husband/wife/children/family.
    Smarten up.

    Simple, right?

    Not so much.

    The reasons that people start using drugs (I'll use this term broadly to include all drugs and alcohol) are numerous.
    Some people use drugs to manage their pain (I have). Some people use drugs because it makes them feel better about themselves, whether because they are shy or because they have a mental health issue like depression or schizophrenia. 

    Some of the client's I've worked with have suffered through horrible abuse. 
    How many of them have been told they are just another junkie, looking for that ultimate high? How many times have they been brushed off, not taken seriously, stigmatized because they have an addiction?

    What if you had grown up in a household where you were sexually and emotionally abused by the people who were supposed to care for you? 

    What if the only way to escape that pain, physical and mental, was to numb yourself with drugs?

    Seems like these people might deserve our support, right?

    What if you tried drugs at a party with your friends and you really liked the way it made you feel?

    And what if you kept using those drugs because suddenly you were confident and liked yourself? 

    Are these people selfish and undeserving of our support?

    You'd be more likely to help and support the man who broke his leg or the man who has cancer than the man who has overdosed, right?
    The man with cancer didn't ask for it.

    There should be NO classification of the deserving and the undeserving, especially when it comes to who we help and support as a society.
    Everyone is deserving.

    "...if he wasn't famous, there would be no story"

    This is just about the only point in the Facebook comment that I agree with. 

    People die everyday from drug addiction and we don't talk about it. 
    We walk passed them on the street and toss coins at them or mutter "get a job" under our breath.
    Or we say what a shame, what a waste of a life.
    He threw it all away for drugs.

    Let's use Mr. Hoffman's fame to start talking about the way we see addiction.
    Let's use Corey Monteith's fame to generate discussion about why we stigmatize drug use.

    Why did it need to be reported that he was found with a needle still in his arm?
    Or with 70 bags of heroin around him?
    Does that help paint the picture for his friends, family, and fans that he was just another selfish addict who threw his life away to dirty, shameful drugs?

    I understand the argument for criminalizing drug use.
    I know that to legalize all or aspects of it is an ethical slippery slope.
    Personally, I'm an advocate for harm reduction. If I ask a client if they plan to use and they say yes my response is, "do you have clean supplies? Do you know how to use them safely?" 
    I don't expect everyone to share this view because I understand that not everyone sees drug use the way I do.
    Not everyone is going to sign petitions for a safe injection site in the city.
    I get it. 
    I do. 
    It's not a black and white issue. 
    Whether providing a safe location for supervised drug use is a way to decrease rates of HIV, Hep C, overdoses, and drug related violence or whether it is merely sanctioning and promoting dangerous habits - this is a great debate and I encourage people to learn more and talk about it.

    But let's not allow our personal beliefs to influence how we support someone with addiction.

    I would personally never touch most drugs but does that mean I'm going to judge someone who does?
    Not a chance.

    I've seen people try to get clean. 
    I've seen successes and relapses.
    I'll tell you this: it's not easy.

    These people aren't just giving up a hobby or a fun weekend. They often have to leave where they live, and cut entire groups of friends and acquaintances out of their lives. 

    Then what are they left with?

    Where is their support network?

    That's why we need more programs and more resources and more education.
    We need to stop seeing drug users as criminals, bad people, degenerates.

    They are just as deserving of care and compassion, whether they are ready to seek help or not.

    "Just another junkie" ?

    He was a human being who wasn't perfect, just like everyone else on the planet.

    How dare you.



    If you or anyone you know has addiction issues or you'd like more information, please visit any of these links:

    The Centre for Addiction & Mental Health website
    The Canadian Centre on Substance Abuse website
    The Addiction Canada website

    Wednesday, August 10, 2011

    Celebrity Engagements & Weddings

    I was cleaning up around the apartment and found some old magazines that I had read and hadn't recycled. One was a People magazine with Kim Kardashian's engagement story on the cover.
    So to do something fun and different I thought we could take a look at how ridiculous some celebrity engagement rings/weddings are.

    Starting with a recent one, let's take a look at Vanessa Minnilo.
    Her ring is definitely big but compared to a lot of the others on here, it's relatively normal.
    I wanted to watch the wedding special on TV but I was away. I looked for it online but no luck. I'll keep looking. The pictures looked nice though!

    I think my favourite of the one's on this blog is Carrie Underwood's ring. Plus she's just so cute. 

    Her wedding was a little too pink but it looked beautiful.


    Now we get into the ridiculous.
    Hilary Duff.
    Sweet girl, hilarious paparazzi photos of her being proposed to and what it appears she was doing to show her now-husband how happy she was.
    How she is able to walk around without dragging her hand on the ground I do not know.
    That bad boy is massive! Personally I think once you start getting into the double digits karat-wise you've gone overboard.
    And I promise this isn't jealousy speaking! Just practicality. But I guess if I made ridiculous money I wouldn't be thinking about the car or house I could pay for if I pawned the ring.
    She's too cute to hate on, though.
    And kind of funny story, I was reading a magazine that Leah Miller (former Much Music VJ, current host of SYTYCD Canada, also married to Dallas Green) was featured in and she was talking about how she and Hilary Duff are practically best friends. I wasn't sure if this was just a case of celeb name dropping so, being the super sleuth that I am, I figured if they were actually good friends she would have been at Hilary Duff's wedding. I googled. She was a bridesmaid. My appologies, Leah Miller.


    Moving from one ridiculous ring to another (and the inspiration behind this post) we have the recently engaged Kim Kardashian. Her ring totals 20 karats. TWENTY! 16.5 in the center stone I think the magazine said. I don't like judging but it looks silly, almost fake. More like costume jewelery than an engagement ring. But to each her own! Everyone has different tastes.
    I'm anxiously awaiting her wedding so I can see the pictures. I think it'll be over the top too.
    For goodness' sake she had sparkly ponies at her engagement party.
    Think I made that up?

    But alas, my prize for most ridiculous ring does not go to Kim Kardashian.
    There has been bigger, more ridiculous.
    24 karats.
    No wedding.
    Who else would it have been?
    Paris Hilton.

    Again, everyone has different tastes and I know now that it's more than just what the ring looks like. Every time I look at mine I think about the night I got to slip it on and I think about how lucky I am.
    Plus it's exactly what I wanted. The pictures saved on my computer and shown to my sister guaranteed that!

    Sunday, February 27, 2011

    Academy Awards Predictions

    It's that time of year again...
    The couture is out in full force, the envelopes are sealed, and the hardware is getting ready to be handed out.
    It's Oscar time!


    I like to think I have a fairly good track record in predicting the winners so join me in this years predictions.
    Don't agree with my list? Let me know who you think is going to win!
    Best Picture: The King's Speech
    Best Actor: Colin Firth (The King's Speech)
    Best Actress: Natalie Portman (Black Swan)
    Best Supporting Actor: Christian Bale (The Fighter)
    Best Supporting Actress: Melissa Leo (The Fighter)
    Adapted Screenplay: The Social Network
    Original Screenplay: The King's Speech
    Foreign Language Film: Biutiful
    Animated Feature Film: Toy Story 3
    Director: Darren Aronofsky (Black Swan) (? this one's a guess)
    Best Original Song: "Coming Home" (Country Strong) ...though I won't lie, I'm tempted to give it to Randy Newman as he is a musical genius. (Appologies for having to read it rather than see it...not my fault).

    I'll try and update along with the show to see how many I get right!
    I'm skipping categories like art directions, costume, makeup etc etc cause I've seen two movies nominated. So I'm at a serious disadvantage and most of my guesses are based on buzz and previous awards won.

    Friday, February 4, 2011

    When Celebrity Chefs Go Wrong...Part II

    A little while back I posted recipes from Paula Deen and from Rachael Ray.
    Horrible recipes that literally required nothing more than a package of bacon and a can of peas.
    No skills needed other than being able to operate a can opener and enter time on a microwave.
    Once again, Dlisted.com has given us a doozy of a recipe from the Food Network.
    I can't help but laugh, but I mean... you're a chef who is lucky enough to have recipes featured on the Food Network.
    Food Network - you are a place where people like me go to find recipes that we can use to delight our tastebuds and impress our friends with our epicurean talents.
    So when you allow stuff like this on to your website....
    well...


    I think I may just print the recipe for this.
    I'll practice this one a few times before I try it out for friends!

    Monday, January 17, 2011

    My Idol Hits the Hospital

    I read this past week that my poor, beloved Martha was rushed the emergency room!
    Why?
    Her dog Francesca head butted her (accidently, though maybe not looking at that face...) and split her lip, which required stitches.

    (Picture from dlisted.com)
    Like the champ she is, she obviously blogged about it.
    Please, PLEASE, click on the link and browse through her pictures.
    Picture 10, specifically.
    I love her.
    You know she probably asked the nurse - in her winter snow clothes - to fetch her some glacial water in a hand-carved ivory jug. And you know that nurse did not question the order.
    You don't say no to Martha Stewart.
    Or her crazy dog.
    Bitch will head butt you.


    Monday, January 10, 2011

    When Celebrity Chefs Go Wrong...

    Let me start this post off by saying that I am not one to discriminate against weirdo recipes.
    I really can't judge, as I often make what John refers to as my "soup" - essentially salsa, sour cream, and crumbled nacho chips in a bowl with a spoon.

    It's like a less messy version of nachos... somewhat.

    Anyway, I love weird recipes and I have mad love for most chefs on the Food Network (sorry some of you newbies, not quite sure about you yet but I won't call you out by name).

    I also have nothing but love for cutie pie Southern Belle Paul Deen. Sure, she cooks almost entirely with pounds of butter, but with that Southern drawl I can't hold it against her. She's unappologetic about her cooking style and her love for butter.

    However...

    I think when you have your own tv show, frequently grace the cover of magazines, and are known as a celebrity chef... well, things like this aren't really acceptable.


    Right?

    Am I wrong in thinking this?

    I found this on dlisted.com and if you want to read some of the hilarious comments that people posted after this recipe, click here. Some are laugh-out-loud worthy.
    As for Rachael Ray... the jury (being my opinion) is still out on this one. I watch her show when I'm home and it's on, and I've bought her magazine a few times... but her voice irritates me and sometimes I find her very fake. And hearing E.V.O.O. as well as some of her other little quirky terms (stoup I still like) sometimes irk me. So I'm torn.
    And yes, I am well aware that she is by no means a professional chef, having never attended a cooking school, but she's done VERY well for herself and I respect her for how she's turned her name into a brand.
    However...

    When you represent more than yourself, when you are a brand, things like this are no longer acceptable.


    Really, Rachael Ray?
    REALLY!?

    Again from dlisted.com. I think my favourite comment is this one:

    "Does anyone have a good recipe for banana? I typically take one from the bunch, peel it, discard the peel and eat it. But I feel like I am missing something. Any recipe for Orange would be helpful too."

    C'mon celebrity chefs.

    At least do like I do and copy and paste from another person's recipe collection.

    Thanks, Martha.



    Monday, August 30, 2010

    Let's go to the Ex: The Canadian National Exhibition


    On Saturday I went to the Ex with some friends for the first time in probably 5 or 6 years.

    The last time I can remember going was with my sister. It was fairly memorable because we went on the ride called The Zipper (warning: video contains a lot of screaming girls) and thought we were going to die.

    Don't get me wrong, I love rides. And I'd been on the Zipper many a time before. On this particular occasion I think the maintenance guys (more polite than calling them carnies) had literally just walked away from our car with his oil can because our car did not stop flipping once. We flipped around and around and around and arround for the entire duration of our ride, picking up speed as we went.

    "Robin?" I asked, unsure of our fate. "I think our car has detached itself from the ride. I think we're hurtling through the ex grounds to our death."

    This is the obvious logical conclusion when the green-then-blue-then-green-then-blue field of vision blurs to the point you can no longer distinguish when you're seeing ground or sky.

    We held hands and prepared for the worst.

    Thankfully the car eventually lost momentum and we stopped spinning. We were able to walk away with our lives but, unfortunately, not without two terribly upset stomachs.

    We used up our leftover tickets to hobble through a fun house like two girls who had gotten into the liquor cabinet in a bad way the night before.

    Then we sat in the shade and when that didn't work either, we made our way to the streetcar to sit with plastic bags on our laps, just in case, until we got home.


    That was the last time I was there.

    I will never go on the Zipper again.


    I did go on a few good rides with my friend Marion this time around though. Her husband is petrified of heights so she was happy for the ride companion. We did the Fire Ball, an upside down one that I have forgotten the name of, and the Starship - you know, the one where centrifugal force pushes you against the wall so that you can climb up it and hang upside down (am I that smart that I can throw out terms like 'centrifugal force' like it's something I say all the time? No. Wikipedia is my saving grace. I did know the word centripetal force, though, and it's somewhat opposite to centrifugal force. Point for me!).

    There was an exhibit of photos that had been taken from the very first years that the Ex was open. I couldn't help but take a few pictures of those pictures.



    I love old photographs like these.
    And those sailor bathing suits? Where do I get my own???

    We enjoyed some fair food, like ribs, pizza-on-a-stick (true story) and caramel corn. I really wanted a corn dog but there were none to be found inside the food building and I was too hungry to wander back out into the sea of people to grab one from a vendor.
    Next time.
    My male friends experienced a similar culinary letdown:
    the line-up for the much hyped 'Deep Fried Butter' was deemed too long to be worth the wait.
    Why can't those obese Americans learn from our healthy Canadian eating habits?
    YIKES.

    After wisely passing up the option to sample fat-fried-fat, I dragged my friends to the Direct Energy building where Chef Michael Smith was visiting!

    For those of you who do not invest as much time in The Food Network as I do, he is the host of Chef at Home and Chef at Large. He has also competed (unsuccessfully) in Kitchen Stadium and is the proud author of a cookbook that I bought for John when he graduated from U of T.

    I would like to quickly send a thank-you shout out to Danielle Rose who understood my excitement at seeing Michael Smith and for making me feel less like a food network weirdo by asking if Gabe was with him when I sent her a photo.
    You complete me.

    But I digress...
    Marion and I managed to talk the boys into joining us on the Ferris Wheel.


    We waited until the sun had almost set before we hopped on so that we could make the most of the amazing lights of the midway an dof the city.


    This year's Ex visit was wonderful.
    Expensive, yes, but what a wonderful way to spend a beautiful day with good food, fun activities, and great friends.




    P.S. John handed in his thesis today so he is officially done his Masters degree!
    I'm making turkey burgers with brie, bacon, and avocado for dinner with potato and sweet potato wedges. I also picked up a nice bottle of wine (cost more than my usual $12-or-less bottles) and a cookies and cream cupcake from The Cupcake Shoppe. I even set the table on the balcony all nicey-nice so that we can celebrate properly!
    Expect pictures tomorrow.

    Thursday, March 4, 2010

    Oscar Predictions


    It's that time of year again.
    The Academy Awards!
    I'm at work and technically shouldn't be on the computer so I'm going to make this fast:
    Here are my predictions for this years Academy Awards
    Best Movie - Hurt Locker....? Seems to be getting tons of hype and perhaps the Academy won't want to give James Cameron a second one...avoid another "I'm the king of the world" moment
    Best Actor - Jeff Bridges
    Best Actress - Sandra Bullock ....No clue here
    Best supporting actor - Christoph Waltz (if he doesn't win I will be P-I-S-S-E-D off)
    Best supporting actress - Gabourey Sidibe
    Animated feature film - Up
    Original screenplay - The Hurt Locker
    Adapted screenplay - Precious?
    Director - Kathryn Bigelow - or Quentin Tarantino.....
    Ok thats all for now! I'm off to Tremblant tomorrow !
    Enjoy the weekend guys and gals